Why They Love You Then They Hate You

If you are reading this post, then I’m sure you are curious to find out why people go from “I love you forever” to “I hate you”, “I don’t want to hear the sound of your voice again” or “I don’t ever want to see you again”. And to those who haven’t seen such a situation, believe me when I say that it happens more often than you think.

Every relationship have a foundation on which it’s built upon. The stronger the foundation, the longer the relationship is bound to last. This is why every relationship should be built on the right reasons. By the right reasons, I mean things that are real and not things that are subject to change at any point in time.

In my opinion, people are generally attracted towards others by what they see but fall in love due to certain qualities they see. We also tend to find someone who completes us. Someone who have what we are lacking but need. I other words, someone who makes us whole.

As all goes well in the beginning of a relationship, we learn to tolerate each others imperfections in order to coexist to achieve mutual happiness and satisfaction. But as humans, we make some errors or decisions that may not be acceptable by others.

When it happens with someone you love, that’s the beginning of the end. They grow to see you through that particular moment of imperfection and making it a reference point to everything else you do going forward. Some may be brave enough to talk to you about it while others may not which becomes more problematic because it remains to be an unsolved conflict.

Due to that particular incident, it makes you vulnerable to more errors in their eyes. They now notice errors they didn’t notice before. What they used to find cute now becomes irritating. This is so because the level of desire they had for you have decreased.

Some may tend to tolerate you due to the history you shared because they still remember some of the great memories you had together. They continue trying to convince themselves that it’ll be fine and that it’s just a bump on the road.

As we’re all aware that different people have different level of tolerance, some more than others. The level of tolerance of an individual determines how long they can be able to keep on putting up with your imperfections.

Now at this juncture, it is the point where you either make it or break it. If you can identify the problem and make amends, your relationship can be saved. In the event that it continues to go in the negative direction, it’ll come to a stage where they completely snap. This is the point of no return.

After this point, they must have convinced themselves that they can no longer be able to put of with you. They have decided that in order for them to find happiness, they have to let go of you. They try to avoid anything that could remind them of you and that’s why they cut all ties and act like they now hate you.

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